Happiness ! The one emotion that we all search for throughout our lives. It seems all to easy to have, but in reality how many of us can say we are truly happy. Happiness is a state of mind which enables us to truly feel that our lives are complete and worthwhile. Yet true happiness is so elusive to many in this world.
Searching for the perfect situation
The journey of life is programmed in such a manner that we all set out goals to reach at some point in our lives. Some identify their passion at a younger age and strive towards it, and others go along life in search of their destiny. Which ever path people end up in, we all tend to be hardwired in a similar pattern, and that is a search for a particular situation to be in, where you can say to yourself I have reached the intended destination I set out to achieve. What we don’t understand is that inadvertently we have set out a criteria for us to be happy. The final situation we envision for ourselves is the point we allow ourselves to be truly happy. By doing so we have subconsciously removed our ability to be truly happy in our current state as we have not reached the goal we set out to achieve. It is a simple psychological setting we subconsciously carry out, but it has a long lasting effect on our ability to be happy.
Life will never be a smooth road and there will be many pitfalls we will run into, that will change our path on various occasions. There by we may not be able to reach our set goals according to the time frame we set out in the beginning. If your focus is on the end result, then you will be unhappy. Throughout our lives our goals may also change according to the situations that we run into. Life is very uncertain and it can change at any given moment. So waiting for the perfect situation to be happy will never bring you joy, because you will always end up searching for joy in a predicted future that may or may not materialize. So do not invest your happiness on a particular state in the future. No situation will ever be perfect in life. If you look for it there will always be some shortcoming. So your happiness does not lie in some perfect scenario in the future. It’s already there right in front of you.
Gratitude of the moment
Humans always take for granted what we already have. We are constantly searching to improve our lives to reach our set target. What we don’t realize is that when we reach this target we set out a brand new one. So if we keep setting targets and goals, as we go ahead in life when will we ever find a moment to truly be happy? That day may never come if we progress our lives in such a manner. You must be grateful for all that you already have, because somewhere out there in the world is searching for what you already have. Yet your focus is towards different goal and you don’t appreciate what you already have. True happiness lies within your mind. If you truly appreciate what you already have then you will truly be happy.
A CEO of a multinational company may be unhappy that he was unable to profit in a particular demographic and he will only be happy until he reaches that target. So no matter the fact, that he is the head of a company or how much profit it has already made he is not happy. The stress of reaching that target will affect his mental health as well as his inter personal relationships. Yet a simple intern in the same company maybe grateful for his chance to work at such a reputed company and that will bring him/her the all the happiness that is needed. So be grateful for what you have. It may not be much, but it is more than enough to find your happiness in life.
When you are unhappy in life for not reaching that dream target in your life take a moment and try to look at what you already have and list them down. It may be food on the table, a loving family , a pet that always puts a smile on your face. However simple it maybe you must remember that millions out there would give anything to just have those simple things. Learn to appreciate what you have and never focus on what you don’t have. If you are able to look at every positive fact in your life each day you will find happiness every single day of your life. Appreciate all that you have achieved so far in life and not on what you are suppose to achieve. If you can do a simple act that brings you closer to your life long dream, be grateful for that achievement and not focus on how much you have left to do.
So find your happiness. It is already in front of you. You already have all you need to be happy. It’s not in some future situation. It is there in your present moment. Look for it and you will see it as clear as day. Be grateful for all that you have and be thankful and be proud of whatever you have achieved already and happiness will find its way into you heart.
